Last week a woman sat across from me. A physician. 38 years old. Earns $180,000 a year. Success, money, freedom, a life many people dream of.
And she said to me, "Jonas, why do I feel so lonely?"
In love: drama. Over and over. The same men, the same patterns, the same ending.
Let me guess: You're successful. Work is going well. You earn good money. You have your life together. But in love, it's drama. The same patterns, over and over. You attract men who are emotionally unavailable, who are weak, who are insecure, who can't hold you.
And you ask yourself: Why does this keep happening to me? I'm successful. I'm attractive. I have it all together.
Here are 3 reasons you attract the wrong men, and 3 steps to change it.
The 3 reasons,
and why you of all people are affected
You dim your light
On dates, Sarah hid her success. She didn't talk about her career. She played smaller than she was. Why? Because she had learned: "Strong women intimidate men."
And the result? She only attracted weak men. Men who only felt comfortable when she was small.
You're trapped in your head
Successful women are masters at analyzing, planning, controlling. At work, that works. In love, it's a disaster.
Because love doesn't happen in your head. It happens in your heart. But you analyze: Why hasn't he texted back? What does that mean? What is he thinking? You're in your head, and men feel that.
You have no boundaries
Successful women are givers. They give at work, in friendships, in love. But when you have no boundaries, you attract takers. Men who take and take and give nothing back.
And you keep giving, because you think: if I just give enough, he'll love me. But that's not how it works.
Masculine and feminine energy:
the shift that changes everything
This point is so important that it deserves its own section.
And then they wonder why men don't feel drawn to them.
This does not mean you should be weak. It means: You have to come from your head into your heart. And that's a shift you can learn.
"Men don't want another masculine energy next to them. They want feminine energy. That's not weakness, that's magnetism."
Princess vs. Queen:
the decisive difference
This is not a cliché. This is the core of everything.
3 steps:
how you change this now
Transformation doesn't happen overnight. But it begins with a decision. And you make that decision now.
Own your success. Your intelligence. Your power. If a man feels threatened by it, he's not the right one. A strong man isn't looking for a princess, he's looking for a queen. So shine. Show who you are. Without apology.
Stop analyzing. Stop controlling. Start feeling, through breathwork, meditations, rituals that bring you back into your body. As long as you're in your head, you can't love and can't be loved. When you're in your heart, everything opens up.
Learn to say no. Learn what you're worth. A man who respects you will respect your boundaries. A man who doesn't has no place in your life. That's Queen Energy. That's the third step.
"Do you want to keep dimming your light, keep attracting the wrong men, keep staying in the drama, or do you want to become the queen? The choice is yours."